I will not worry

Worry is a part of the human psyche. Its completely normal, although taken to the extreme, it can be unhelpful.

What happens in the mind when we worry is that we start to project a lack based future scenario in our minds, that creates a fearful state, and sometimes, panic. However, because we are imagining it, we can’t do anything about it, as it does not yet exist.

This leads to feelings of being trapped or uneasy.

Its good to acknowledge when we feel worried about something. Quite often there are things we can do to alleviate the worry. However, other times, the fear has no grounding and there’s no logical mitigation. At these times its useful to create ways of releasing worry. Here are ways you can apply the Reiki principles and release your worries:

1. Change the dialogue in your head. Try adopting more encouraging self-talk and remember a time when you might have overcome similar challenges in your past, and how it worked out.
2. Try not to be too hard on yourself. Ask yourself if you are expecting too much of yourself right now. Take some time out to do your favourite thing, and acknowledge yourself for coming this far and caring so much.
3. Talk. Sometimes a worry shared is a worry halved. If you know of someone who cares, and has your interests at heart, try sharing your worries with them. It may only take verbalising your fears, to see a way forward, and shift into a more relaxed state.

I will not be angry

Again, we all get angry sometimes and actually, when used correctly, anger can be a helpful tool and a necessary part of overcoming challenging situations. However, as with worry, it is not helpful when taken to the extreme, and can lead to aggressive or passive aggressive behaviour.

1. Take some deep breaths. At some point, you’ll need to let go of the anger and allow it to be released so you can move forward in a much more calm and centred way. Breath control helps bring the nervous system back into balance and these induces a more peaceful state.
2. Compassion. The energy of compassion is an antidote to anger, resentment and blame. However, exercising compassion towards yourself first is the most important step in being compassionate towards others. Whenever you find yourself criticising yourself, you are allowing a form of self-harm to take place. Forgive yourself and know that the Universe never judges you.
3. Acceptance. Acceptance in the moment, is a radical and important step in finding inner peace. Just saying “yes” to this moment now, as you are reading this, has a direct effect of pinging your awareness back into the present moment. Saying yes to this moment can be very difficult. You maybe suffering a painful loss and the feelings of grief, heartbreak and anger maybe very intense in the present moment. However if you deny yourself in the present moment and deny your feelings, then you prolong your suffering. Send that resistance inside you the compassion it needs from the previous step. Then return, to saying ‘yes’. If the ‘yes’ is a complete yes, then the aliveness of the moment will be felt despite the challenges of loss.

I will be grateful

1. Write a list. Writing a gratitude list has the effect of elevating your state because you are focusing your awareness on abundance rather than lack. An abundant mindset is powerful as it manifests more of what you desire. The lack mindset is focussed on what you don’t have and what you don’t want, and draws more of the same to it also. So focus on what you have. You maybe underestimating what you do have and once you start writing your list, you maybe surprised to be struck with more and more reasons to be grateful.
2. Kind acts. One of the quickest ways to enter into the energy of gratitude, is to do something kind for someone else. No matter how small. Even the smallest act of kindness, can lighten someone’s day. Offering to take someone’s trolley back from the car park, smiling at the cashier, making someone a cup of coffee, writing a thank you note, or checking up on a friend. All these small gestures can be sincerely appreciated by the receivers, because we all want to know that we are connected and that we matter. Someone else’s gratitude for your kindness, can instantly infuse you with the same gratitude.

I will do my work honestly

1. Look at your integrity. By integrity, I do not mean a moralistic set of judgments about what’s right and what’s wrong. I mean the set of behaviours and responses that work, in maintaining your own inner peace and putting an end to your suffering. In order to maintain your integrity, its important to be true to your word and honour your commitments. If you can’t, its okay, and shouldn’t be used as a stick to beat yourself with. Instead, communicating how you cannot follow through on what you said you could, without blame or judgement, helps you honour your integrity and stay true to yourself. Also, if someone else expects something from you that you cannot deliver, then being straight with that person provides you and them clarity. Integrity is a constantly fluid and dynamic phenomenon that is a tool to helping you stick with the facts, rather than the story or narrative your mind may want to layer it with.
2. Be in communication. Unless you are being bullied, abused or harmed in some way, then being open about mistakes is often the best way to resolve them, and it helps you restore alignment with your integrity as quickly as possible. If you are admitting to being out of integrity in some way, then asking how to put it right for the person or people directly affected will help them to process the situation faster and bring it to completion. Most people want peace, and by being involved in the solution, you are helping to restore harmony for yourself and everyone involved.

I will be gentle to every living thing

1. Be gentle on yourself. The most direct way to end conflict and aggression in the world around you is to end it in your own being first. This means creating an inner environment free from criticism, and narrative about not being enough, or worthy of what you want and need.
2. Forgive. I’m yet to meet another human being who has never been harsh, either verbally, or physically. Whether that be with themselves (expecting too much, pushing themselves to the limit) or with others. The key is to forgive whatever ‘wrong’ you think may have happened and know that we have all survived something, and that we are all capable of profound kindness and compassion. This ability to be unconditionally loving, sweet and gentle, lives in all of us. Its a matter of staying connected with it that is the daily practice. Find ways of tuning into your heart, and to know that you are not judged or found wrong by the Universe. There is an infinitely intelligent consciousness supporting you without judgment at all times.

I hope you have found this helpful. Sending you so much love, always

Louise xxxx